In a world where information is readily accessible, children often encounter stories of tragic events long before we think they’re ready. As parents, caregivers, and educators, we’re then left with the challenging task of helping them understand what they hear, especially with sensitive topics like September 11, 2001. Maureen Santora’s children’s book The Day the Towers Fell takes on this difficult conversation with grace, offering a gentle, age-appropriate way to explain a tragic event without overwhelming young readers. Here’s a look into how her approach can guide us in discussing other difficult topics with children.

1. Address Curiosity with Honesty

Children are naturally curious, and they often have questions about things they don’t understand. Maureen’s book approaches this curiosity directly, giving clear, honest answers that avoid both sugarcoating and unnecessary detail. When answering questions about tragic events, honesty builds trust. Instead of evading difficult topics, try to provide simple answers that respect their need to understand.

Example: When a child asks why something bad happened, respond with “Sometimes, people make choices that hurt others, and it’s something we don’t fully understand either.” This opens the door to a conversation that can grow as the child ages.

2. Adapt the Story to Their Level

Just as Maureen chose language that is easy for children to understand, we too can adapt our explanations based on a child’s age and maturity. Children don’t need the full complexity of events; they need context that aligns with their level of understanding. In The Day the Towers Fell, Maureen gently

describes the bravery of those involved rather than focusing on the fearful aspects. This approach emphasizes values like bravery, compassion, and community.

Example: If discussing a tragic event, frame it with values. “Many people were scared, but so many helped each other and showed kindness even when things were hard.”

3. Emphasize Empathy and Heroism

One of the strongest elements of The Day the Towers Fell is how it highlights the bravery of first responders, including Maureen's son Christopher, who lost his life while rescuing others. This narrative not only honors the heroes of that day but also teaches children the value of helping others in difficult times. Introducing concepts of empathy and heroism in such stories can make a lasting positive impression on children.

Example: After explaining the basics of a tragic event, share stories of how people came together to support each other, fostering empathy and resilience in young listeners.

4. Create a Safe Space for Questions

Children may have many questions after hearing about a tragic event, some of which may be unexpected. In her work, Maureen has created a platform where children feel safe asking questions. Similarly, we can allow our children to express their curiosity and even confusion without judgment. Acknowledging that it’s okay to ask questions makes children feel secure and helps them process information healthily.

Example: “Do you have any questions about what we talked about? There are no wrong questions, and I’ll do my best to help you understand.”

5. Encourage Reflection and Positivity

While tragic events bring sadness, stories like The Day the Towers Fell also encourage reflection and hope. When we talk to children about these topics, we can guide them to reflect on how people help one another and look for ways to make positive changes in their communities. This approach leaves them with a sense of purpose and understanding rather than fear.

Example: “What are ways we can help others like those heroes did? Sometimes, just being kind can make a big difference.”

Why Books Like The Day the Towers Fell Matter

Books such as Maureen Santora’s play an invaluable role in bridging difficult conversations between adults and children. They help young readers gain a sense of understanding while focusing on resilience and the importance of community. If we approach these topics thoughtfully, we can foster a generation that is not only aware of history but also committed to making a positive difference in the world.

Discussing tragic events with children is challenging but essential. By using simple language, emphasizing positive values, and creating a space for open dialogue, we can help children make sense of the world around them. Maureen Santora’s The Day the Towers Fell provides a meaningful resource in this endeavor, showing us all how to speak to children with honesty, compassion, and hope.